A 10-year-old boy walked up to me. His eyes were wide, and his bottom lip trembled as he asked:
“Ma, why do parents give all their love to girls and forget about us? We need love too.”
That question stopped me. It made me think: Are we unintentionally creating an invisible wall between our children? Are our sons feeling left out because we focus too much on protecting our daughters?
Many parents face this without even realizing it. Loving one child more—or in a different way—can lead to feelings of neglect, sibling rivalry, and heartbreak.
1️⃣ Teach Skills, Not Gender
Avoid saying things like, “Girls can’t do that” or “Boys don’t need help.” Instead:
Teach your daughter confidence, independence, and resilience.
Teach your son empathy, respect, and responsibility.
Both children should feel equally capable and valued.
2️⃣ Praise Effort and Share Responsibilities
Small changes in language and chores can make a huge difference:
Praise effort, not gender: “I see how hard you worked on this, well done!”
Rotate chores fairly: Assign tasks based on ability, not gender. This teaches responsibility and equality.
3️⃣ Dedicate One-on-One Time
Children need your undivided attention. Schedule 15–30 minutes weekly with each child individually. Let them pick the activity—playing, painting, reading, or just talking.
This shows: “You matter. I see you. You are important.”
4️⃣ Handle Conflicts Fairly
When siblings argue:
Don’t automatically assume one child is right and the other wrong.
Teach respectful conflict resolution and assertiveness.
This reinforces that every child is valued for who they are, not just for “winning” arguments.
Raising children who feel equally loved isn’t about stopping protection—it’s about showing equal care, attention, and respect to every child, regardless of gender.
Even small steps—shared chores, kind words, or dedicated time—can break the invisible wall and strengthen sibling bonds.
What’s one thing you’ll do this week to make sure all your kids feel equally loved? Comment below!
Are We Loving Our Kids Equally? How to Break the Invisible Wall Between Siblings !
